DEAR AMY: I am a widow and after my husband’s death I became friendly with a man who knew my late husband. “Frank” has helped me out with some business matters, and I’ve grown to really like him.
After talking by phone, texting, and going out for dinner (where we both seemed to have a great time), out of a clear blue sky Frank said, “It’s going on three years since your husband died.”
What does this mean?
Is he saying it’s time to move ahead in this relationship, or is he maybe saying that it’s time to stop seeing each other?
We are both adults and single.
I’d appreciate your directions.
– Wondering Widow
DEAR WONDERING: Here are my directions: Turn to your right. Find your phone. Use it to ask “Frank” to do something non-business related.
I suggest that you float the idea of grabbing a coffee and going for a walk in the park, because that’s what worked for me the last time I asked a man out.
This may seem like a terrifying thing to do, but if you’re ready to get back out there, a little bravery is called for. I hope you’ll follow up.
(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
