Although the divorce trend has seen a dip in the last couple of years, a large number of marriages still struggle to sustain.
Therefore, experienced divorce lawyers came together to break down the reasons that cause a marriage to end and the factors you need to consider before getting hitched.
Why marriages end, according to divorce lawyers
Glamour gathered divorce attorneys to understand why most marriages fail and here’s what they said in a video uploaded to YouTube:
Couples don’t take marriage seriously
New York attorney James J. Sexton believes most couples don’t take the legality of marriage seriously while being caught with other irrelevant details such as the wedding cake and venue.
He says marriage needs work and is bound to fail if the spouses give up on each other easily. A lot of intricacies come into play when two people are legally bound and they aren’t always easy to navigate. If a couple doesn’t consider the important aspect of marriage before tying the knot, it’s unlikely to be a success.
They expect the other person to change
Divorce lawyer Linda Zhou says most marriages fail because the spouses expect each other to change once they enter the wedlock.
An outgoing person can’t make peace with the preferences of a homebody. Such a marriage with contradicting choices is hard to work.
Finances aren’t discussed before marriage
She also pointed out that most of the couples, despite making their own money and having different bank accounts fail to talk about finances before marriage.
It always gets complicated when finances aren’t well-discussed early on and causes a drift in the relationship. Linda suggests signing a prenup as it includes mandatory financial disclosure of both parties.
An exciting partner doesn’t make a great spouse
According to James, many marriages simply don’t work out because people end with their “cool partners” who don’t make great spouses.
Even though this isn’t the case with every divorced couple, one must realize that someone fun to date isn’t always the best choice to marry. For instance, dating a chef or a musician may seem fun, but their chosen career with odd hours and extensive travel doesn’t work in a marriage, especially with kids.
James J. Sexton is a renowned NYC attorney who has been practicing since 2001 as a trial lawyer and courtroom advocate. He has also authored the book, If You’re In My Office, It’s Already Too Late.
The video also features Linda Zhou, who has been practicing matrimonial and family law exclusively since 2007 and has extensive experience in aspects of divorce, from high-conflict custody disputes to settlement agreements.
