A devoted wife says she feels suicidal after waiting five years to bring her disabled husband home.
Michelle Sage (57) and husband Graham had been living in Gedney Drove End for 16 years when, at the age of 62, he was punched by a stranger on a night out in a horrific incident that left him on life support. He has been cared for at Askham Village Community in Doddington ever since the random attack.
Now Michelle is only able to visit her husband of 27 years once a week due to the cost of travelling nearly 30 miles.
Mrs Sage said she was initially offered adapted accommodation by South Holland District Council but felt this was unsuitable. She was then offered an extension and wet room – which would cost £100,000.
But Mrs Sage says no progress has been made with housing and it is affecting her mental health so badly she feels suicidal.
She said: “I really don’t want to be here and I think ‘what’s the point of being alive?’ We have been through a hell of a lot and it is really getting me down.
“At the moment I don’t feel that I am a married woman.
“I am really suffering and my depression is really sky high and it is bad enough coping with Graham without this on top of it.”
The incident which changed the couple’s lives irreversibly happened while visiting family members in Chesterfield and a man tried to chat up a woman with them.
After leaving the pub, the man punched Graham and his head hit the concrete - causing blood to come out of his nose and ears.
He was taken to Chesterfield Hospital and then to Stoke on Trent where he was on a life support machine for seven weeks and put into an induced coma for a further 12 weeks.
Graham was later transferred to Addenbrookes Hospital, Cambridge, where he had many operations, suffered four bleeds on the brain, and had half of his skull removed.
With such a severe head injury, Mrs Sage was told by doctors that Graham might not survive.
The man who caused the injuries was sentenced to 18 months and served seven months in prison.
This caused Mrs Sage to ‘cry in temper’ as she gave a statement describing how it has affected their lives and how leaving her husband like this was ‘disgusting.’
Mrs Sage has been told that Graham will never walk again and she can’t bring herself to tell him that his mother has died.
She said: “I feel I didn’t fulfil his mother’s wishes while she was alive to see him come home.
“I am on medication, I can only afford to visit once a week and it is draining me.”
Graham recognises his wife and can speak in sentences that she understands but is unable to make decisions for himself. She feels that progress with the council is like ‘banging her head against a brick wall’.
She said: “What do I say when he asks ‘when am I coming home?’”
In February last year, Mrs Sage says council workers came to measure up for an extension and wet room with plans drawn up to submit but then she heard nothing more about it.
In January this year, she claims that council officers said that there would be a meeting to make a decision as the costs had risen from £80,000 to £100,000.
Mrs Sage said: “You’re talking about people’s lives here and they have messed me about so much.
“They suggested he comes home for a weekend once a month but if they hadn’t messed me about he could have come home straight away.”
South Holland District Council has been contacted for comment.
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