DEAR AMY: My boyfriend and I have been together for five years.
His late wife was a wonderful woman. They were together for 30 years before her sudden death.
He still has a copy of their wedding photo on the wall in the bedroom we share.
I am not happy about it. I expressed my concerns, however it is still up.
What should I do? Do you think he is still grieving?
– Concerned
DEAR CONCERNED: Grief isn’t an all-or-nothing state, but tends to walk through a person’s daily life. Grief … passes through.
You’ve expressed your concerns about having this photo in your bedroom (and I can see why that would be a concern), but you don’t seem to have offered any alternatives. Is there another place in the house where the photo could be integrated into a larger story of your guy’s life, featuring other photos from your pasts, as well as those of your shared life?
I hope you’ll make some reasonable suggestions.
(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
