DEAR ABBY: I had a long and wonderful marriage before my husband passed away after a lengthy illness three years ago. I have supportive friends to go to lunch and coffee with, but I miss the companionship of a special someone. One of them is a man I have known for many years. He has been a widower for more than 10 years. He has dated several women with no commitments and is always a gentleman.
Before my husband’s passing, he once said if I wasn’t married, he would call me. He hasn’t contacted me. How can I contact him without seeming aggressive? He has said that he’s pleased with his current companion because there is “no drama.” Please advise how an elegant lady can call him on the phone (he doesn’t use email). -- CLASSY IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR CLASSY: Consider this: Throw a small party and invite some of your friends to join you. Then, pick up the phone and ask this gentleman if he AND his lady friend would like to join you. There is no reason you can’t be friends, as long as you realize he is involved with someone else (for now).
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Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
