DEAR ANNIE: I have been married for 15 years. A little over a year ago, I started having an affair with an ex-girlfriend. The affair ended a month ago. It is over and done with.
I am not sure if I should tell my wife about it or just keep it a secret. I feel that if I tell her, nothing good would come from it, other than being truthful. However, I see it destroying the trust she has in me. I can’t think of a good reason to tell her. What should I do? -- A Cheater in Upstate NY
DEAR CHEATER: Ask yourself what your intentions are in confessing. Are you doing it to relieve yourself of guilty feelings? The feelings are there, whether you tell her or not. The real question to ask is why you cheated in the first place. That might be better flushed out with a therapist.
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DEAR ANNIE: As someone who has long suffered from an easily stressed digestive system, I suggest that “Gut Feelings” also see a functional medicine practitioner. Food sensitivities and gut dysbiosis are very common, yet unrecognized, causes of distress.
With testing to evaluate digestive health and identify imbalances, digestive comfort can often be attained with dietary changes and supplements. I’ve been there and am now feeling so much better. -- Healthy Gut
DEAR HEALTHY: Congratulations on getting your gut in good health. Taking proper care of one’s body through healthy foods, exercise, meditation or prayer, and lots of sleep, love and laughter, is always a good idea.
NOTE: The above column originally published in 2021.
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