DEAR MISS MANNERS: What is the proper etiquette regarding bedroom assignments for guests?
A friend of mine told me that it is good manners to offer the main suite to guests, especially married and/or elderly couples. I was never advised of such a rule when I was growing up, and I wonder if I have been impolite over the years.
My adult daughter, her boyfriend and his parents -- who live out of state, and whom I have not yet met -- will soon visit me. They will drive several hours for us all to have dinner together, and then stay at my home for one night.
I have a TV room with a queen-sized foldout sofa bed (which I enhance with extra foam, but I expect provides less than ideal comfort), plus my daughter’s old bedroom, which has a very comfy double bed. My plan is to offer the parents their choice of the sofa bed or the double bed.
But should I be offering my own bedroom suite to them? This, of course, would necessitate that I predetermine and pack up whatever clothes and toiletries I will need while they are visiting, as all of my personal belongings are in there. I would, of course, do this, if that is indeed the correct and polite way to treat guests.
GENTLE READER: Even Miss Manners, a consummately gracious hostess, does not offer her own bedroom to guests. It is not required, nor should it be expected.
That you are giving these strangers lodging is already gracious. Your comfort need not be sacrificed -- nor theirs diminished for having inconvenienced you.
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