Death and dying typically don’t top the list of dinner table discussions. But perhaps they should? After all, acknowledging our mortality is a fundamental part of being human.
I’m Louise Sinclair, chief executive of Beaumond House Hospice Care. I am privileged to have worked as a nurse for more than 30 years and at Beaumond House for 17 of these.
Every year, Beaumond House joins the national Dying Matters campaign led by Hospice UK.
It’s about breaking the silence and fostering conversations around death and dying.
So, let’s break the ice...
One proactive step is planning for what happens after we are gone.
By outlining our funeral preferences and asset distribution in a will, we not only ease the burden on loved ones but also find peace of mind for ourselves.
Talk about who you wish to entrust your asset management to and who you wish to make decisions on your behalf (if you are unable to) by empowering that person in a Lasting Power of Attorney.
Once you have identified these people, share this information with your family.
Talking about funerals isn’t taboo either.
Whether it’s jotting down your wishes, arranging with a funeral director, or simply having a chat with family and friends, it can significantly lighten the load for everyone involved.
Talk about what music you would like at your funeral, what kind of funeral you would like, if you wish to be buried or cremated and even what you want to wear.
These conversations can be light-hearted but when the time comes your loved ones will know how to honour and celebrate your life.
Furthermore, considering future care options is wise. Contemplate scenarios of serious illness or incapacity, discussing preferences with loved ones or healthcare professionals.
What kind of care do you envisage?
Where would you like to receive it?
Where would you like to die?
These conversations are pivotal in ensuring your wishes are respected.
And let’s not overlook the digital realm.
From social media acc-ounts to personal devices, our online presence is vast. Designating someone to handle your digital footprint after you are gone ensures your wishes regarding your data are respected.
To log all your conversations, wishes and preferences we have a guide called Ducks In A Row to help prompt your thinking in all areas of planning ahead.
Please contact Beaumond House Hospice Care on 01636 610556 or call in to see us at 32 London Road, Newark for your copy.
So, whether it’s fish pie or pizza on the table, let’s spice up the conversation with a sprinkle of mortality planning during Dying Matters Week.
It may not be the usual dinner chat, but it does makes life easier for everyone when the time comes.
