The first kiss on the first date is a truly memorable experience – given it goes well. But a dating coach says most men get it wrong.
There are a lot of dos and don’ts when it comes to the first date. As we have already settled the age-old debate about whether you should kiss on the first date, it’s time to learn the next step.
Dating coach explains how to approach the first kiss
Dating coach Hollie Carson advises her followers to ditch the idea of saving the kiss for the end. It doesn’t matter if that’s how every first date ends in your favorite rom-com, but the expert doesn’t approve of it.
She says men should never wait until the end of the date to lean in for a kiss. But consent is important regardless of when it’s done.
Hollie suggests initiating subtle physical touch much before you go for a kiss. You can do this by offering your arm to hold while climbing down the stairs or holding hands together when strolling about on streets.
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These gestures imply that you’re interested in your dater and grab their attention, modestly. The other tip by Hollie is to pay attention to the lady’s body language. As a man, you would want to make sure the woman you’re on a date with is comfortable and every action is consensual.
When to go for the kiss
The first two tips by the dating coach help you understand the situation better – whether your dater is comfortable with the next move or not.
If the woman you’re on a date with reciprocates the subtle gestures and seems okay with the first kiss, you must go first for a hug. After the hug, Hollie suggests pulling back to look her in the eye before leaning in for a kiss.
If the woman gives it a go, you can conclude your date by locking your lips. If not, wait for the next time or whenever you both are ready to share the special moment.
Similarly, you should know when to pick up the cheque on a date, depending on who proposed the idea. An etiquette and elegance instructor says: “Whoever proposed the invitation should also be the one who is covering the bill in full unless agreed otherwise beforehand.”
