This one’s for all the romantics heartbroken one too many times despite doing everything “right”. Well, that’s where the problem lies, it seems.
Different people can find different traits attractive in their partners. A love expert revealed good looks aren’t the most desired quality in a man as women look for something else, something more valuable. So what makes a man respect a woman?
What makes a woman ‘more valuable’, according to dating coach
You met a guy; he’s everything you ever imagined. Or that’s what you tell yourself. We’ll get to that later
Now that he’s on your mind, and you believe he’s the one, you go out of your way to be nice to him. You are available at his beck and call. You take all the initiatives and go all in on planning the dates and more.
You’re only being true to your feelings and offering him the best version of yourself. However, that makes you less desirable to man, according to relationship and dating expert Matthew Hussey.
He says you should get out of the idea that if you “just give enough someone is going to respect us.” Nope, ladies. He’s got to earn it.
The dating coach says the man “will not have a wake-up call or respect” just because you’re a giver. “What makes someone value something is when they realize it’s not just a given. They do have to show up in a certain way to keep getting that,” Matthew explains.
Common mistake to avoid in the early stages of dating
In another video, Matthew elaborates on a recurring issue in dating, that only ends up in a heartbreak. We create a static image of the person before getting to know them instead of prioritizing our needs and what we expect from the relationship.
Putting the man or woman you like on a pedestal soon after getting attracted to some qualities that make them desirable overlooks possible red flags. Your strong attraction for those few qualities in the person will become the center of your dating experience when it should be the core values you should go after.
For instance, you may become invested in a person more than necessary because they look good or hold a certain status in society while ignoring red flags like inconsistency, lack of communication, and respect.
This makes the person respect and value you less because they are getting everything they want, and maybe even more, without having to show up because you’re too smitten with them. Matthew suggests prioritizing the qualities you want in a partner until they prove themselves to you.
Matthew Hussey is a British dating and relationship coach, best-selling author, and television personality with over a decade of experience. He offers dating advice and discusses the complications of romantic relationships on his podcast and social media channels with millions of followers.
