DEAR AMY: I am a girl in my late-teens and my brother (late-20s) is getting married soon. I’m the youngest of all of the siblings of the groom and bride.
I wasn’t asked to be an attendant – and I’m totally fine with that.
But I’m wondering if there is a role I should have in this wedding that I don’t know about? Should I offer to do something specific?
I don’t want my brother and his fiancé to feel pressured to give me a special job, but I would like to be helpful.
Should I reach out to them to ask about this? I don’t want to create any weirdness.
– Just a Guest
DEAR GUEST: Aside from pitching yourself as the world’s tallest flower girl (I actually think this is a fun idea), you should assume that you are an honored guest.
As the date draws closer the couple might have tasks they would like to assign to you. You might preempt this by saying (to both of them), “We’re all getting excited about your wedding! I’m here and available to help with any last-minute stuff that comes up. Feel free to give my number to your attendants in case they need a hand with anything. I’m happy to pitch in.”
(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
