DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’m a 300-pound woman. I’m funny, friendly and intelligent. I went to a luncheon and was engaged in conversations with many of the strangers there.
One tiny, petite woman had finished part of her lunch and doggy-bagged it along with her dessert when she looked at me and said, “Oh, I was just going to tell you that you could take your dessert to go, but I see you’ve already eaten it.”
I was gonna say, “I’ll try not to judge you if you don’t judge me.” But that didn’t sound good to me. What would you say?
GENTLE READER: “Yes. It was quite good.”
Miss Manners does not dismiss the possibility that there was a criticism implied in what the woman said, but as nothing she actually said was rude, let us instead follow the policy of not looking for trouble.
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