DEAR ABBY: My husband and I retired six years ago and moved from California to Texas. I have two grown sons, and my husband has two grown daughters still living in Cali. My husband’s oldest daughter (50) just came to visit along with her 10-year-old daughter.
On the Sunday they were to leave, my husband was to take them to the airport in the morning and leave me home to read my Sunday paper. Before they left, his daughter wanted a picture of all of us together. I told her I didn’t want a picture taken in my nightgown, but she said it would be only from the neck up. I acquiesced, and she took the shot.
Two days later, former clients of mine from California posted on Facebook how glad they were to see me look so happy in retirement. My husband showed me the Facebook posting of me from the waist up in my nightgown on his daughter’s page!
I don’t go on Facebook, I don’t want my likeness on Facebook, and I’m not happy that after expressing my feelings about having my picture taken in my nightgown, his daughter put me on Facebook. Isn’t it common decency to ask someone before arbitrarily posting their picture on Facebook? -- NOT HAPPY IN TEXAS
DEAR NOT HAPPY: I am going to assume that your husband’s daughter didn’t post the family picture on her page to inflame you. She may have forgotten her promise to you. Because this isn’t the impression of your happy retirement you want to convey, ask her to take it down and hope she complies. If she doesn’t, do not pose for any more family pictures when she’s behind the camera.
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