DEAR ANNIE: I’ve been happily married for over 12 years, but lately, I’ve noticed a growing distance between my husband “Bryan” and me. He’s always been a bit of a workaholic, but it’s gotten to the point where even on weekends, he’s either at the office or on his phone dealing with work-related issues. We used to enjoy things like hiking and trying new restaurants together, but now it seems like he has no energy or interest. The times I have been able to convince him to do something for fun, it hasn’t been fun at all because he’s on his phone checking emails the whole time.
I’ve tried to talk to him about it, but he insists that everything is fine and that this is just a “busy season” at work. I’m worried that this “season” is turning into our new norm. How can I get through to him that our relationship needs more attention without coming off as needy or unsupportive? -- Worried in Wisconsin
DEAR WORRIED: Communication is key in any marriage, and it’s important to convey your feelings without making your husband feel defensive. Express your feelings using “I” statements to avoid sounding accusatory. Additionally, propose a practical solution like setting aside one weekend a month dedicated to quality, phone-free time together, or even a few hours a week where both of you can disconnect from work and focus on each other.
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