DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband is an early bird and goes to bed every night at 9. His nighttime routine starts at 8.
I would like to invite a couple we sometimes dine out with over for dinner. Can we issue the invitation from 5:30 to 8? Or would it be better if we didn’t state an end time, and my husband just excused himself at 8?
GENTLE READER: So you were being literal when you said your husband goes to bed at 9 every night, whatever the circumstances.
It occurs to Miss Manners that your guests might see changing one’s regular routine to enjoy the pleasure of their company as a relatively minor inconvenience -- and the failure to do so as a slight. Even if your husband stands ready to defend his proposed course of action, perhaps going so far as to present medical certificates, the damage to the friendship will have been done.
Why not, instead, invite your guests to brunch?
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