How often do dumpers get away by saying – You were the right person, but the timing was wrong? Well, a relationship expert doesn’t believe in the widely used analogy.
Dating is complex as is it. It’s bad enough that you end up with an emotionally unavailable partner, the timing shouldn’t be added justification for a failed relationship. Here’s why the popular phrase “right person wrong time” doesn’t exist – it may be hard to digest.
The truth behind ‘right person, wrong time’
You met someone; you knew they were the one for you. You get dumped when you think of taking it to the next stage. And the reason? “Wrong timing.” Sounds familiar? You won’t fall for this excuse ever again after hearing what a dating coach has to say.
According to dating and relationship expert, Anna Williamson, “right person, wrong time,” isn’t true. “The right person will be with you through the thick and thin, all the ups and downs of life and you can get through anything together,” she says.
There’s no such thing as a wrong time in true love or a genuine relationship. You should rather ask yourself what wrong timing means in your case. If the distance was an issue, with one partner going away for a while, it simply means your relationship or bond wasn’t strong enough to withstand it.
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And if you’re the “right person” to get dumped at the wrong time, it implies your partner didn’t think of you as the one. If they did, they would have made things work instead of losing you.
“For example, if you’ve broken up with somebody and you say ‘Well you know, the right person, wrong time’ but they’re the one who broke up with you, you’re not the right person for them,” she explains.
They can be stringing you along
Just because two people are dating doesn’t mean they share the same intentions. Your partner may be stringing you along and you wouldn’t even know. In a different video, Anna breaks down reasons someone can keep you around without promising commitment.
They’re keeping you around as a potential option. Should they feel they are ready to commit and settle down one day? But that’s not today or tomorrow or anytime soon. So they string you along, keeping you waiting.
Your attention and efforts stroke your partner’s ego. Obviously, he feels good when you’re available at his beck and call, even though he gives the bare minimum.
They get all the emotional benefits and support from you, without having to commit. This is called “girlfriend/boyfriend privileges” that fall into their lap despite the lack of commitment.
They are keeping their options open. This is a hard pill to swallow, but your partner may be waiting for someone better to come his way while stringing you along.
Anna is the co-founder of the dating solution website The Relationship Place, an internationally published and number 1 best-selling author of four self-help books, an acclaimed life coach and relationship expert on TV shows. She holds accredited qualifications in counselling, life coaching, psychotherapy and neuro linguistic programming.
