Dealing with kids can be exceptionally hard if you fail to understand their perspective. A psychologist suggests trying a 15-second tip that will make them cooperative almost instantly.
Most interpersonal conflicts occur among people unaware of the psychology behind them. Such as ‘Daddy Issue’ – a commonly used slang that undermines the deeper issues associated with it.
How to make your kid go from rude to cooperative
Clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy talks about one of the ways to improve your relationship with your children, which works on anybody.
She claims the 15-second- tip always works regardless of your kid’s age. All you need to do is listen and question rather than react.
The simplest question you can ask them is what you can do better as their parent. Let them pour their heart out and it doesn’t matter if they bring up the prettiest of issues such as what you gave them for breakfast or reduced screen time.
All you need to do to reduce their rudeness is listen and ask how it would be to try their way, so they feel heard and become considerate.
This could work in any relationship, including a professional setup because by listening and questioning, you’re letting the other person know that you “respect” them and are “invested in the relationship”.
What every parent needs to know
Parents of today’s generation are undeniably overprotective of their kids. However, by doing so, they are making a huge mistake the psychologist tells every parent to avoid.
Your children seek your support and not your solutions, says Dr. Becky. This means you shouldn’t always take it upon yourself to find a solution when they are met with challenges.
If your kid finds it hard to learn a language, tell him or her that you “understand that language learning can be tricky,” but don’t offer to read it out for them.
Letting children figure things out on their own not only gives them confidence but also makes them resilient. As much as you want to be there for your kid and hate to see them suffer, being supportive is the ideal way to deal with any situation.
Dr. Becky is a clinical psychologist and founder of an online parenting advice organization called Good Inside – helping “millions of parents a better way to see and solve challenges in their homes.” She has a BA in psychology and human relationships from Duke University and a PhD in clinical psychology from Columbia University.
